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Tales & Tiger Lily: September 2020

Oct 20, 2020


My sister recently joined bookstagram as @talesandtigerlily. Her name is Caroline, and Tiger Lily is her adorable sidekick (pictured above). Since she's discovered a love of reading, I've had the best time talking about books with her. Be sure to check out her introduction post to get to know her better. Once a month, you get a new installment of Tales & Tiger Lily. In each post, she reviews three of her favorite reads from the previous month and ends with a list of everything she read with ratings (and links to reviews, if applicable). Her top three from September:


THIN GIRLS BY DIANA CLARKE
“Something I have learned: to love is to worry about your beloved until you die. Something else I have learned: to be loved is to have your beloved worry about you until they die.” 

Thin Girls is the story of twin sisters, Lily and Rose, who have struggled with their bodies and food since childhood. The novel is told through the voice of Rose, and her dilemmas are utterly heart-wrenching. She spends much of her time at a rehab center for anorexia. Lily has her own set of struggles as she has been with many abusive men and eventually finds herself caught up in a cult-diet group led by a faux-feminist.

This novel explored so much of what it means to be a woman in a world with the pressure to look perfect. We get the perspective of someone who has an extreme eating disorder, but we also get a look at how our toxic dieting culture affects all of us. From skinny teas to tracking calories, this novel makes it clear that this should not be normal. I adored the redeeming qualities of sisterhood, love, and friendship — the beautiful things in life that we often take for granted. But most importantly, the novel’s message offers hope — that we may always struggle with certain things, but we can choose to be a little better each and every day.

I absolutely LOVED this book. Clarke’s writing is gorgeous, and there were so many moments I learned something new or wanted to write down a quote. It is a very heavy read, and sometimes I had the same feelings as when I read My Dark Vanessa. However, I have discovered that the books that make me the most uncomfortable, are the books I’ll never forget. | 🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶

BETTY BY TIFFANY MCDANIEL
“A girl comes of age against the knife, Betty. But the woman she becomes must decide if the blade will cut deep enough to rip her apart or if she will find the strength to leap with her arms out and dare herself to fly in a world that seems to break like glass around her.”

Betty is a story inspired by the author’s mother’s life. It begins at her childhood and takes the reader through the years as she comes of age. It’s set in the foothills of the Appalachians which is a character of its own— a place of poverty and violence. Let me tell you something — I sure do love an Appalachian story.

As the story unfolds, family secrets of abuse, shame, and mental illness are brought to the light. I never really write about trigger warnings, but this book has a lot of them. To be honest, there are scenes I wish I could get out of my mind. It is an extremely sad yet absolutely stunning novel. I cried and felt a bit depressed after I read it, but I’m telling you it was worth it. At times I felt the trauma the characters dealt with was just unbearable. However, there is hope sprinkled through the pages. All you can do is long for a better future and healing for Betty. She is strong, resilient, and one of the fiercest characters I’ve ever met. 

I can’t even begin to tell you how much I LOVE this book. I don’t even know how to put to words my adoration for it. The setting, the gorgeous writing, the characters, the way I felt every emotion under the sun— I have nothing negative to say about it. I give it all the stars in the galaxy. I don’t know if it will be my favorite book of the year, but I would be willing to bet a bottle of moonshine on it . | 🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶

THE SONG OF ACHILLES BY MADELINE MILLER
“And perhaps it is the greater grief, after all, to be left on earth when another is gone.”

Circe is one of my top 10 favorite books I’ve read this year, so I don’t know why I waited so long to read The Song of Achilles. It tells the story of Patroclus, a young prince who meets Achilles while in exile. Patroclus, so sweet and a bit insecure, is mesmerized by Achilles’ complete confidence and beauty. I love how the book was written from Patroclus’ perspective — I adored him. There was such a gentleness to his spirit, and I felt attached to him by the end of the novel.

I felt so invested in the characters, and I was saddened by the events that unfolded. The battles scenes were gripping, and I felt so nervous reading it even though I already knew the outcome. I also loved the other characters, Chiron and Briseis, while I abhorred Agamemnon and Thetis (seriously I wanted to stab Agamemnon). 

The love between Patroclus and Achilles was beautiful. I didn’t want the story to end, and it made me wish I knew more about Greek mythology. Circe is still my favorite, but I really loved Song of Achilles, too. Miller’s writing is perfect for my taste, as it has just the right amount of flowery language. I followed along with the audiobook, and I highly recommend it: the narrator’s voice was on point. Can the publisher please make an edition as beautiful as Circe? I need them matching next to each other on my shelf.  | 🐶🐶🐶🐶.5


Recapping the Rest of Caroline's September Reads:
The Secret Garden by Frances Hodgson Burnett | 🐶🐶🐶🐶
The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood | 🐶🐶🐶🐶 • Review
Sputnik Sweetheart by Haruki Murakami | 🐶🐶🐶
Speak by Laurie Halse Anderson | 🐶🐶🐶
Verity by Colleen Hoover | 🐶🐶🐶🐶
Sisters by Daisy Johnson | 🐶🐶🐶🐶 • Review
Blood & Honey by Shelby Mahurin | 🐶🐶🐶🐶
The Last Story of Mina Lee by Nancy Jooyoun Kim | 🐶🐶🐶
With or Without You by Caroline Leavitt | 🐶🐶🐶
Transcendent Kingdom by Yaa Gyasi | 🐶🐶🐶 • Review
Hamnet by Maggie O'Farrell | 🐶🐶🐶🐶 • Review
The Mountains Sing by Nguyễn Phan Quế Mai | 🐶🐶🐶🐶
Against the Loveless World by Susan Abulhawa | 🐶🐶🐶🐶
Sometimes I Lie by Alice Feeney | 🐶🐶🐶
Ask Again, Yes by Mary Beth Keane | 🐶🐶🐶🐶 • Review
Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman | 🐶🐶🐶🐶🐶 (not pictured) 

Quick Lit: September 2020

Oct 16, 2020

September wasn't my best reading month in terms of quantity, but I love the majority of what I read so I have no complaints on the quality. I finished nine books and am reviewing all of them today! I had a great mix of non-fiction and different genres of fiction. If you enjoy this feature, check out other readers' reviews at Modern Mrs. Darcy.


MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE BY LORI GOTTLIEB – This was such a thought-provoking book about therapy, what it means to be human, and how we cope with pain, our pasts, and try to change our future. It read like fiction, in the best way, and was very insightful. My least favorite aspect was the author's personal journey, even though her therapist was great. I couldn't stop myself from being surprised that someone who sounded like a mess could help people sort out their own lives, but I also respected her vulnerability in showing that therapists are human, too. They don't have all the answers! I loved the patients' stories and how Gottlieb saw their humanity and provided perspective on their decisions. That made the book so engaging, and I So Loved It!

ANNA K BY JENNY LEE – If this book had been adult, instead of YA, I probably would have enjoyed it more. It had the wealth of Crazy Rich Asians, the teen drama of Gossip Girl, and a plot inspired by Anna Karenina. I found much of it creatively reimagined for a modern retelling, but there were also elements that made me cringe so hard because it involved teens. I got so hung up on how much I disliked the casual drinking, drug use, and sexual content. I don't want to read about teenagers having clandestine hookups. And yes, my mom side is showing! The dialogue was awkward because the characters talked like they were texting, and I'm not sure the author would have made that stylistic choice if she'd been writing about adults. I So Liked It, partly due to nostalgia for teen dramas.

MAJESTY BY KATHARINE MCGEE* – After loving American Royals last year, I couldn't wait to get my hands on this sequel. How would these characters come to terms with what happened in that cliffhanger ending? I had some predictions on where McGee would take this story, and she totally surprised me! The romantic shakeups + personal growth of a few characters were just what I needed. I wish one character got more of a comeuppance, but I can imagine it for myself. If you're looking for an in-depth look at what America would be like with a monarchy, you won't find it here. This is more about the romance and drama with a cleverly imagined world that we just glimpse from afar. This sequel might have mixed reviews, but I So Loved It. Gimme all the royal drama!


BLOOD & HONEY BY SHELBY MAHURIN – Hmm... I have really mixed feelings on this book, and I feel like I'm still processing them. I loved Serpent & Dove last year and then re-read it before this release to refresh my memory and get hyped again. I was disappointed to see the duology had become a trilogy, but I held out hope that it would still work. Unfortunately, it didn't for me. I felt like the book dragged on and on. I listened to it on audio and never felt compelled to keep listening! The drama and conflict seemed like smoke and mirrors to me – it appeared flashy but had no real substance and didn't move the plot forward very much. The characters were acting so juvenile and getting on my last nerve, too! I'm just So Okay With It and will be forever bitter it didn't stay a duology.

TROUBLED BLOOD BY ROBERT GALBRAITH – Whenever I'm in Cormoran's world, I don't want to leave. Each time I finish a new installment, I chase the feeling it gives me but no other mystery series can match it. This one was no exception! I enjoyed the mystery, but it's the dynamic between Cormoran and Robin that had me clutching my book like a giddy schoolgirl. You know that scene in the 2005 Pride and Prejudice where Mr. Darcy clenches his hand after helping Elizabeth into her carriage? Cormoran and Robin are a relational manifestation of that moment. They are the reason no other mystery series can compare! I loved all 900+ pages, though the zodiac/astrology element was strange at times. The reveal was amazing, and I loved the journey to get there. I'm So Obsessed With It!

YOU HAD ME AT HOLA BY ALEXIS DARIA* – When the Goodreads summary referenced Jane the Virgin, I had to read this book. I am obsessed with that show! You Had Me at Hola focuses on two actors who are starring in a new telenovela, and this setting was so delightful. That's what most reminded me of Jane, and I loved that the book had chapters that focused on the shows' storyline and characters. I won't lie – I was most invested in that aspect! I loved learning about the cast and crew, being on set, and following the show's arc. The main romance was just okay for me, and it was definitely too steamy for me personally. I was less invested in the hero and heroine than in the characters they played on screen because they got a little too angsty. Overall, it was a fun read, and I So Liked It!


THE EMPIRE OF GOLD BY S.A. CHAKRABORTY* – I've really enjoyed the Daevabad series so far and couldn't wait to find out how everything would conclude. It didn't disappoint! I love this world – rich in Middle Eastern influences and with a complex tangle of social and political conflicts. They have a different feel than most fantasy I've read, and I love it. There was a lot of thought and detail put into this world and its magical system, so I always feel like I'm one step behind Chakraborty's mind when it comes to predicting the various twists and turns of the plot. I've loved listening to this series on audio but am thankful there's a glossary at the back of the book, too. It's got action and adventure, complex characters, and a well-developed world. What more do you need? I So Enjoyed It! 

THE UNWINDING OF THE MIRACLE BY JULIE YIP-WILLIAMS – This memoir was a mixed bag for me. I loved Yip-Williams' brutal look at cancer and death and her refusal to sugarcoat things. I thought her history was interesting and would have loved to learn more about it. But the book focused too heavily on the treatments she underwent and got bogged down in some of those details. I believe it was a series of blog posts, originally, and it retains that feeling. It's just all over the place! Any memoir is a bit self absorbed, but I found it strong at times here and thought the casual references to her privilege (such as degrading a hospital that largely treated immigrants) were alienating, even though she and her husband had clearly worked hard for their financial security. I'm So Okay With It.

BUSY TODDLER'S GUIDE TO ACTUAL PARENTING BY SUSIE ALLISON – I've been following @BusyToddler on Instagram for a while now and was so excited to find out she had a parenting book coming out that compiled 50+ of her most popular activities into one book. The day I bought it, I sat down to read a few pages and didn't move until I was done. I loved every word! I bought it for the activities and didn't expect to feel so inspired by the advice. It felt like sitting down with a friend who is just a few steps ahead of me on this parenting journey and has such wisdom, perspective, and grace for this season of life. I repeatedly thought, "Why didn't I think of that before?!" I'm so glad to have these tools/phrases/ideas in my arsenal now and will refer back to it repeatedly. I So Loved It! 

*I received a copy of this book from the publisher for review consideration. This did not affect my opinion of the book or my review.

What have you been reading lately?

So Obsessed With: The Mini Edition #10

Oct 13, 2020

Some of my favorite posts are ones where bloggers highlight the products they're loving lately or the things they're currently coveting. I love this kind of content so much that I started highlighting my loves and lusts with So Obsessed With posts. So, here are seven things I'm so obsessed with lately:


1. Sausage & Butternut Squash Risotto from I Heart Naptime
If you want a recipe that screams fall, this one is for you! Although it's technically a crockpot recipe, it's not the kind where you dump all the ingredients in and come back hours later. But I still find the prep and hands-on cooking easy, and the end result is absolutely delicious. I love that it's so filling and has lots of leftovers.

Now that my sister is officially a book nerd, she's been scoping out some cute bookish merchandise. I sent her a link to Bookshelf Tees, and she bought us this adorable shirt! I've already worn mine a ton – it's so soft, the perfect fall color, and subtly nerdy. A winning combination! I might end up buying this one eventually, too.

The new PowerSheets collection launches tomorrow, and I'm so excited to use them again in 2021. Despite all the upheaval of 2020, my PowerSheets have helped me stay focused on the big picture and make consistent progress. I'm so obsessed and am hoping to talk more next week about how they've worked for me this year!

After I take a shower, I typically do my hair and makeup before getting dressed. I hated the robe options I had available – one was too hot, one stuck to me if I wasn't completely dry before putting it on, etc. Then I discovered the Weezie robe, made of cotton terrycloth. It's like wearing a towel, and I love it! However, I got mine at 40% off. 

When Simplified launched their planner pouches in the spring, I decided not to buy one. I wasn't sure I'd use it and had more than enough pouches. After using my planner for a bit, I splurged on the new pink pinstripe pouch that launched this fall. And I use it all the time! I love keeping my planner, stickers, sticky notes, and pens all together. 

I have a little tray next to my sink with two soap dispensers – one for dish soap and one for hand soap – and a scrub brush. Because I already had a system that worked, I was resistant to try this spray when my mom recommended it. But I gave it a try anyway and can now see why she raved about it! The spray feature is my favorite.

If we accidentally left our closet door open, our dog would sneak in and chew some smaller laundry items. I wasn't sure how to address the issue until I found these hampers! I attached the zippered bag to one end (rather than using it as a divider) and put underwear/socks/etc. inside. Now, my dog can't get to them and no longer tries.

What have you been loving lately?

October 2020 Goals

Oct 9, 2020

September was a more productive more than August for me, but I still found myself procrastinating tasks I knew wouldn't take that long. Thankfully, however, I did manage to check off most of the goals on my list. So, I'm pleased overall! Doing preschool at home with my big boy added a little more structure to our day, though it only takes about an hour so we've still got a lot of flexibility. As the weather cooled, we spent many afternoons outside – on walks, enjoying our screened-in porch, or running around our neighborhood playground. Our sweet baby started crawling, so there's even more exploring happening in our house. And now I'm so excited for all that October holds!


On My Calendar:
– A bookstore date with my sister
– Some fall adventures with my boys
– The release of the 2021 Powersheets
– A long-distance movie night with Kelly to watch Rebecca

Currently Obsessing Over:
– I don't buy my boys a ton of clothes, but I've been browsing recently since we're buying a few things for fall. In this process, I found this custom name onesie and toddler tee. Those will be added to the boys' Christmas lists! And once the baby starts walking, I will definitely be purchasing these shoes. How cute are they?!
– The new Cultivate What Matters collection launches on October 14, and I'm already planning to pick up the Powersheets goal planner. I love the changes they've made this year! But do I need a pouch, too? Hmm...
– One of my favorite things about fall is that it's the perfect time for pot roasts, delicious soups, and other deliciously comforting meals. My rotation will definitely include: Sausage & Butternut Squash Slow Cooker Risotto, Sausage Potato Soup, Baked Potato Foil Packs, Perfect Pot Roast, Chicken Pot Pie, Pumpkin Bread and Chrissy Teigen's Chicken Noddle Soup from her first Cravings cookbook. Yum, yum, yum!
– My sister got us both this nerdy t-shirt from Bookshelf Tees, and I love it! It's the perfect color and is so soft. 

Yearly Goals:
(These should stay the same all year, so I'll just do month-to-month progress reports!)
– Read through the Bible in one year.
– Read a devotional every morning.
– Track my spending in the Goodbudget app.
– Blog 2x per week.

September progress: 
– I made no progress in September, and I'm trying to choose grace over guilt over that fact.
– Although I missed a few days, I always got caught up quickly!
– I slacked off on this habit in September, adding purchases once a week. It's an October priority!
– Meh. I posted five times – not terrible, but definitely not twice a week.

Revisiting My September Goals:
– Schedule a monthly planning session. / This was the first time where I finished my month review and pre-planning a few days into the new month, but September just got away from me. But I still got it done!
– Complete Seven Months in the baby's journal + take monthly photo. / I did the photo on time but procrastinated on his baby book. Checking in on my Tending List near the end of the month reminded me to finish the task.
– Complete Seven Months in my big boy's journal. / Once again, I delayed starting this goal and barely finished in time to check it off my list. Why did I keep imagining it would take longer than it did? So close to being caught up!
– Cull, download, rename, and backup August 2020 photos. / One of the few goals I completed right away.
– Make my Fall TBR. / Though I didn't read everything from my summer TBR, I was still so excited to make a new list for fall. I shared the twenty books I'm hoping to read in a recent post, and I've already five of them since then.
– Start new learning routine with virtual preschool. / I'm so excited about this progress! My big boy started his virtual preschool, and we love it. We've gotten into a rhythm with it, and it's added a little extra structure to our day.
– Research family photo books. / I didn't even attempt this goal. Whoops!
– Re-evaluate finance goal. / While growing in my financial knowledge is still a long-term goal, I think I've realized it's something I know I should do rather than something I actually want to do. I need to dig in and find a stronger "why" behind the goal to help! For now, I'm going to stay small by continuing to track my spending. 
– Complete three 20 in 2020 items. / Nick was traveling a lot in September, so some of the items I imagined completing weren't possible. The boys and I still did some sweet things, but they weren't ones on our list. 
– Start planning Christmas gifts for my boys. / I'm not completely done with this yet, but I did start getting a plan together. And starting was all I hoped to accomplish! I'll continue to work on it in October, I hope.

My October Goals:
– Schedule a monthly planning session.
– Complete Eight Months in the baby's journal + take monthly photo.
– Complete Eight Months in my big boy's journal.
– Cull, download, rename, and backup September 2020 photos.
– Have a fall adventure as a family, like the pumpkin patch or apple picking.
– Go through Lazy Genius' The Clean Slate, The Holiday Docket, The Meal Plan, and The Swap.
– Blog about my 2020 planner lineup.
– Re-read one comforting book that feels like fall.
– Finish planning Christmas gifts for the boys.
– Add school extension activities to my big boy's daily routine.
– Buy new 2021 Powersheets!

Do you have any goals for October?

September 2020: Recap + On My Shelves

Oct 7, 2020


September passed in a blink, but it was a great month. We went to the mountains, started preschool at home for the big boy, and marked a big milestone with the baby. And through it all, we made so many sweet memories!


1. Labor Day in the Mountains – We hadn't been to the mountains since Father's Day, and we were all long overdue for a trip. My whole family headed up there for the long Labor Day weekend, and it was such a fun getaway. We kept it pretty chill – lots of eating, reading, and sitting on the porch – which is just what we all needed. Now my sister and I are planning a fall reading weekend in the next few weeks. Just us and a big stack of books. 

2. Starting Virtual Preschool – Our big boy is 4, and we decided to sign him up for an amazing virtual program that a local preschool was offering. We pick up a packet of materials every other week and have slides created by his teacher walking us through our lessons each day. We both love it, and he's learning so much! It's been great so far. It doesn't take very much time, but it's added a little extra structure to our days that's been lovely. 

3. Fresh Haircut and Highlights – The last time I got my haircut and highlighted was before my baby was born in February! So, needless to say, it was long overdue. My next appointment had been scheduled during Georgia's quarantine, and then I never rescheduled once that one was canceled. With all my postpartum hair loss and breakage, I was so excited to finally get a giant refresh by losing a lot of inches and going blonder.

4. Baby Starts Crawling – We spent a lot of September outside on walks, at the neighborhood playground, and just enjoying the gorgeous weather from our backyard. But at home, a very special milestone happened: our seven-month-old started crawling! We've been cracking up because he army crawls but he's fast and is getting into everything. He squeezes behind chairs, goes under the coffee table, and more. Time for baby proofing!


Read 9 Books | Favorites:
Majesty by Katharine McGee
Troubled Blood by Robert Galbraith

“We tend to think that the future happens later, but we're creating it in our minds every day. 
When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. 
And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists.”
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb

“Most big transformations come about from the hundreds of tiny, 
almost imperceptible, steps we take along the way.” 
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb

“But we fell in love, day by day, he’d said. Real love comes from facing life together, 
with all its messes and surprises and joys.” 
Majesty by Katharine McGee

“Every married person he knew seemed desperate to chivvy others into matrimony, 
no matter how poor an advertisement they themselves were for the institution.” 
Troubled Blood by Robert Galbraith

“I find I can get a more accurate measure of a man when he’s not aware he’s being appraised.” 
The Empire of Gold by S.A. Chakraborty

“Just remember it's all a phase. Whatever is hard or bad, 
today might be the last day of that phase and tomorrow, they'll grow out of it.”
Busy Toddler's Guide to Actual Parenting by Susie Allison

“Live while you’re living, friends.”
The Unwinding of the Miracle by Julie Yip-Williams


After a lackluster blogging spree in August, I had high hopes for a comeback in September. But it ended up being more of the same! I did post a few times, but nowhere near as consistently as I'd hoped. Will October turn over a new leaf? One can hope! I started September with my August 2020 Recap and then shared my September 2020 Goals. I was very excited to compile the 20 Books on My Fall TBR, my favorite post of the month. And then I wrapped it all with my reviews in the August 2020 Quick Lit post and my sister's reviews in Tales & Tiger Lily: August 2020. Thanks for sticking around even when my posting is slow and unpredictable. 



Favorite Song: "Thinking" by ELLIANA
I saw someone share this song on Instagram and thought it was so catchy.
I saved it on Spotify and it was definitely a September favorite!


The Great British Bake Off, Season 10, starring Paul Hollywood, Prue Leith, Noel Fielding and Sandi Toksvig – I continued to crave cozy, heartwarming TV in the time when I wasn't reading, and there's no better pick than The Great British Bake Off. I watched season 10 in September, which I loved up until my favorite floundered a bit and didn't win. I was so sad! It was still a delightful watch overall, of course. And now I'm ready for the new season. 


Enola Holmes (2020) starring Millie Bobby Brown, Henry Cavill, Sam Claflin, and Helena Bonham Carter – After Kelly and I watched Little Women together (long distance!) in April, we finally planned another BFF Movie Night with the release of Enola Holmes on Netflix. We both cozied up in our rooms with a bowl of popcorn and watched this delightful mystery, texting each other throughout. This movie was so fun and perfectly cast, too!


The Social Dilemma (2020) directed by Jeff Orlowski – I don't watch many documentaries, but this was trending on Netflix and the premise interested me. Welp, I almost wish I hadn't watched it. I don't mean that, of course, but it is the kind of discussion that makes you look at your phone and social media differently. Even if you know they're affecting your brain and actions, it's still disconcerting to hear some of these startling details. 


Book of the Month: Winter Counts by David Heska Wanbli Weiden

Bookstore & Pre-Orders: Someone to Romance by Mary Balogh, Majesty by Katharine McGee, Fifty Words for Rain by Asha Lemmie, Betty by Tiffany McDaniel, Anxious People by Fredrik Backman, Troubled Blood by Robert Galbraith, and Busy Toddler's Guide to Actual Parenting by Susie Allison (not pictured)

Used Bookstore: Know My Name by Chanel Miller, Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano, A Well-Behaved Woman by Therese Anne Fowler, and My Southern Journey by Rick Bragg

Audible: Majesty by Katharine McGee (not pictured)
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